There are many ways to Be an Angel for Alzheimer's. Here are a few suggestions :
- Call a caregiver with a specific offer: May I bring lunch for you today? May I sit with John/Mary while you go out for a while?
- I think you might enjoy this movie; may I bring it to you?
- Before you ask about the cared for, ask the caregiver, "How are you?"
- Continue to visit friends with dementia as long as it is practical. Your familiar face and the sound of your voice can register at some level, even when they can no longer communicate verbally.
- Continue to call and visit. Caregivers become isolated from their support systems. Be there!
More on Support Systems
Our organization's mission includes building and strengthening community support systems, such as partnerships with first responders, the medical community, churches, seniors programs, long-term care residences, and civic organizations. Support systems also include the network of friends and neighbors of families facing the daily challenges that Alzheimer's disease brings into their lives.
Are you part of someone's support system? If so, stay in contact. Call and ask, "How's your day?" Visit. Take a casserole or basket of fruit. A strong support system helps individuals through times of crisis. Be there for those who need your support, who need to know that you care.
Listen
- When I ask you to listen to me and you give me advice, I feel as if you haven't heard me.
- When I ask you to listen to how I feel and you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel that way, I feel put down.
- When I ask you to listen to my problems and you assume you have to do something to solve them, I feel as if I'm burdening you.
- My feelings are real to me. I need to have them acknowledged and validated. Just having someone hear me out helps me solve my problems.
- Knowing that someone considers me worth hearing gives me confidence.
- Listen! You don't have to talk or do. Just hear me. And when you need me, it will be my turn to listen.
- --Author unknown
Share Your Story
You are invited to share your personal story related to Alzheimer's as caregiver, spouse, friend, son, daughter, sister, brother, grandchild, medical professional--whatever your relationship--or as the individual with Alzheimer's. We are developing a notebook of personal stories to share with others on the Alzheimer's journey, which will be available in our library. You may sign your name or submit anonymously. Your story will serve as a gift to others facing similar challenges. It is also an opportunity to release feelings you haven't shared. You may mail, fax, email, or hand-deliver your story to us. Contact our office if you have questions.